Email: A Big Time Suck

Email: A Big Time SuckWe all do it. Yes, me too! I’m talking about wasting time. The tough part is that sometimes we don’t even know it.

Email is a big culprit of this kind of time wasting. It can feel like it comes in handy to zip over to check your inbox when you need a little procrastination on a project. But it can send precious hours down the tube if you let it.

Those notification pop-ups flying across your screen are irresistible to click on and read. Sometimes you feel like you’ve got to go take care of them right away because knowing you’ve got those things waiting for you just might kill you. It actually can create a lot of stress, knowing those messages are there and you can’t get to them right away, right?  

So here’s how you can save time and get a little sanity in the process…

Check It Twice

Yep, that’s right. I recommend you check your email ONCE in the morning and ONCE in the afternoon. That’s only twice a day. I can hear your groaning now and I totally understand.

I realize this may sound a little nuts, sacrilegious even, but you can if you can limit the amount of time you spend in email, it will save you hours each week if not each day.

Most office workers spend about 14 hours a week doing emails. With this technique, if you spend one to two hours a day in email, you can cut that down to five to ten hours a week of email time.

That’s four to nine hours a week that you can use for other projects or to go home early!

To gain hours back in your schedule with this approach, you’ll need to be serious about it.

You’ll need to turn off all email notifications on your computer and your phone that might sneak in and let you know about that new emails.

This works because you lose a good bit of time when you’re always jumping in and out of a task. Each time you have to jump into a task, it takes time to reorient yourself and get going with it. If you can start a task and finish it in one sitting, you get SO much more done.

And so much more *actually* crossed off your to-do list. —Sounds like results to me!

Pick what times you want to do email.

First thing in the morning for 30 minutes? Maybe you’re most important writing or planning work is best done first. If that’s the case plan for doing email a little later in the morning, say around 10:30 am.

Then plan a time in the afternoon that works for you. 2:30 pm or 3:30 pm? You pick what works best for you.

What times will you pick? Does this sound doable? Let me know what you think about this idea in the comments.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Find Your Focus: One Thing At a Time

Find Your Focus: One Thing At a Time When your to-do list is too long, how do you dare try to be more mindful? Or more in the moment? It’s the “more” part that catches me every time. Because I don’t need MORE things to do. I need less. A lot less!

But research shows that if you’re able to focus on the things in front of you, what you’re working on and doing right now, that you’ll be happier with all of your efforts as well has more energetic. I hate to say it but this sounds like it’s a good thing to be more in the present moment and mindful (there’s that dreaded “more” word again).

So how can you be more in the present moment and more mindful without adding yoga, meditation and a whole host of other guru-based activities to your already long to-do list?

I’ve come up with a way of doing this where I don’t add anything to my to plate of chores and I’m able to be more in the present moment. This means I’m enjoying life more and feeling more fulfilled by it.

How?

I take the things I’m already doing and do them in a different order. So for example, when I’m eating breakfast, I just eat breakfast. I don’t take my plate and go eat in front of my computer or grab my phone and scroll Facebook. Who wants to come back to cold eggs? I take the time to eat all that’s on my place at once. Then, I go do all the other things that are next on my to-do list.

This keeps the run-around feeling to a minimum. It’s also more efficient because if you have to keep coming back to a task, you waste time pulling yourself away from it and re-engaging with it. If you’re anything like me, if you don’t complete the task at once it keeps crossing your mind over and over until you do complete it. That’s the worst!

Look at the things you do every day and see if you can practice doing them in a streamlined way.

How do you eat breakfast, lunch or dinner? How do you fold laundry? How do you write your blog posts? How do you prep for your day ahead?

Here’s a hint. If you feel like you’re overwhelmed from all of the multi-tasking, life might be easier and more enjoyable if you can find ways to begin and end one task at a time.

If you haven’t tried this yet, start with something small like brushing your teeth. Don’t try to read your emails on your smartphone while you’re brushing for two minutes. Stick only with brushing.

If you feel annoyed or bored with this, go deeper into your thoughts about brushing your teeth. How does it feel to scrub your teeth? What do the bristles feel like on your gums or tongue? How does your face look in the mirror while you’re brushing? It’s okay to fall into deep thoughts or to be silly with this. The idea is that your only focused on this one task.

Then you can try this approach on bigger things like writing a client email. Even if writing that message makes you think of ten other things you need to do or look up online, come back to that email until it’s done. Notice ~how it feels~ to not get lost down a rabbit hole of distractions when you focus on doing only one thing at a time.

This approach allows you to really live in the moment and focus on the “one” thing you’re doing right now, all without doing more of anything. Let me know in the comments how this approach makes you feel and if you think it might help you enjoy life better instead of taking on “more.”

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Squirrel Brain? How to Get Your Focus Back

Squirrel Brain? How to Get Your Focus BackStaying focused is NO EASY TASK. Often times I have so many things happening at once that I feel constantly pulled in multiple directions.

This makes me feel crazy and like I’m not really getting anything accomplished—even if I’m actually getting a lot done! How maddening, right?

So I started to be mindful of reflecting on what went well and what didn’t for all of these tasks that I have going on. This has two major benefits.

One, is that it allows me to see what I can do better next time.

For example, scheduling a client phone call too close to time for my kiddos to get home from school meant that I had to try to quiet them and signal that I was on the phone as they walked in the door. This turned out to be a BAD IDEA because there was a lot of noise and I was totally distracted.

Reflecting on this means that next time I more easily remember to schedule that client call to happen when I have more time.

The other benefit of reviewing what worked and what didn’t is that I can tell if I was productive or just busy.

Busy means that I was doing a lot but didn’t have much to show for it. Productive means that I saw results from the actions I took that got me closer to meeting my goals.

Here’s a question I ask myself to help me reflect on the work I’ve done and know if I was productive or just busy:

How did I grow last week?

How do you answer that question? If you can’t easily answer it, no worries. You’re not alone.

I’m here to say that you can figure out a way to answer it that allows you to see your progress, track it, and celebrate it.

If you can get into the habit of setting a goal for the week, then checking if you completed it by asking that question, you’ll be set to really see the progress you’d like instead of just feeling busy all the time. Does this make sense?

For example, the goal you set at the start of the week might be to send follow-up emails to the business leads you have. You want to turn them into clients and you know that the next step is to respond with your follow-up email. At the end of the week if you sent those emails, you know that you’re closer to getting a new client if you took the action step you needed to take.

If you didn’t take the action step and found yourself only doing busy work around that goal, you know that you lost focus.

An example of losing focus for this goal would be that you started the email drafts and never finished them. Or because you went on Facebook to find a detail about the lead that you wanted to include in your email and ended up getting lost in a social media rabbit hole and ran out of time to finish and send the follow-up emails.

Can you be proactive with this idea by creating a goal for the week that you want to grow in XYZ way (pick a way to fill in the blank)? If you can, you’ll be able to focus the actions you need to take for that growth and truly actually accomplish it. I promise you this!

This eliminates that feeling that you’re doing, doing, doing and not getting anything done. It helps you to be aware of the bigger picture so you stay focused and complete the actions you set out to finish.

Some weeks are harder to see results than others. Reflecting on “How did I grow last week?” allows you to put attention on not just your to-do list, but what you actually got done and how it helped you to uplevel and meet your bigger goals.

Goodbye squirrel brain! Hello focused and productive actions!

Let me know what you think about saying goodbye to your inner squirrel and hello to getting things done by reflecting with the question, “How did I grow last week?” I’d love to hear how it went when you tried it.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

 

Fearing the Future? How to Get Through It

Fearing the Future? How to Get Through ItI’d love to know if you worry a lot about the future?

Maybe it’s about how to make that project work, if you can get a different job soon, if you’ll be able to get enough clients to pay the bills, and if you’ll make mistakes that will totally derail you from your big goals? If you said yes, I can totally relate!

Worrying about the future is a waste of time, though. That might sound like an I’ve-gone-too-far statement, but it’s true.

This kind of fretting and worrying is dangerous because it can become a loop that you get stuck in.

Thinking about ALL of those things that may or may not come to pass; and ALL of those things that you know you’ll need to do, can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. It can be beyond overwhelming. Maybe you’ve even seen this happen?

When you fret over what’s going to happen in the future, you’re not taking action to actually change the outcome of your future. And, it’s absolutely taking away from the present moment. So, what can you do when you’re worried about the future and start to feel that pile-up of thoughts hit you?

FOCUS

Write down only the three most important things that are for you to do (not think about) in the next week and the next month. These two lists might be different and they might overlap.

For example…

This week, the three most important things for me to focus on are: 1) Truly focus on being present + creating memories with my daughter while we’re in Florida, 2) Layout the action plan for a new program offering and 3) Finish my client work.

This month, the three most important things for me to focus on are: 1) Creating a new opt-in, 2) Connecting with past clients and 3) Updating the coaching package copy on my website.

STOP

Take a break from what you’re doing and go do something else. This will disrupt your thought pattern and pull you off the overwhelm path.

SLOWER

Tell yourself that instead of speeding up and racing toward the finish line, that you’re going to slow it all down. This allows you to focus on just one thing at a time and feel less chaotic.

STORIES

These worries are actually stories that you’re making up in your mind. Many of the things you worry about never come to pass. Holding this in your mind (or on a post-it note hanging by your desk) may help to stop the future-tripping that’s happening in your head.

FOLLOW THE FEAR

One way to get rid of the stories is to map them out. Follow the story all the way through.

Ask yourself if x happens, what happens next? Then next? Then after that? How does the story end? Is the ending worse or better than the level of fear you gave to it? ….usually, it’s a lot less.

The next time you feel like your worries about the future start to pop-up, which one of the suggestions above will you try to help pull you out of the spin? Let me know in the comments.

With much love and warm wishes,

Gretchen

The Most Powerful Relationship Is…

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli

Have you ever really thought about the words above? No really, have you?! Such a beautiful reminder and I invite you to sit with it and take it in.

It’s 100% true that the relationship you have with yourself will always be the most powerful. You have total control over it and can change or modify it however + whenever you wish. How amazing is that?

Your relationships with others is also a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.

Can you feel that to be true?

I can and I can also see how at times I go above and beyond for others and as a result, lack the self care for myself. And we all know what that does for ourselves. Nothing. It serves us in no positive way what-so-ever!

So if you find you’re feeling depleted, overwhelmed, or just tired; check in with yourself. Take note of the relationship you’re currently having with yourself.

Is it what you want? Does if feel the way you want it to?

If not, change it! You have the power and the ability to do that for yourself.

It’s so important that we take the greatest possible care of ourselves so that we can always be the best versions of ourselves. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Please don’t forget that.

Warmly,

Gretchen

Facing Anxiety and Fear: Surviving the Boat Trip

Facing Anxiety and Fear: Surviving the Boat TripMy husband and son are forever wanting new toys. Well, let me get this straight. It’s my husband who always wants and my son who then follows along. 😉 Typical father/son right? At least it is in our family. A boat was the latest desire and I truly wanted nothing to do with it. They are expensive and I hear a lot to maintain. I wanted an inground pool for heaven’s sake!

My husband is great at reminding me of the fun I like to have and what brings me joy. Tubing is a blast (hello every sore muscle in my body!) and I’ve always wanted to try skiing. Plus I love to go fast in the fresh open air.

I tend to let money get in the way (that’s a whole other story in itself too!) and then the fun goes to the wayside. However, with lots of time and searching invested (heck! Cree (my son) can navigate Craigslist and Google searches better than I can) they found our new boat, a great deal at that! I must admit, it’s pretty, it’s fast, but my God does it trigger my anxiety!

Labor Day weekend we invited the in-laws and took our boat out for the first time. I’ll admit, I started to feel the anxiety set in as soon as we headed out the driveway.

Thoughts started running through my mind….

Does Shane (hubs) have all that we need on the boat should we get stopped by the boat cop? You know like the fire extinguisher, distress flag, whistle, title/registration, line & anchor, enough life jackets for all, etc? What if we should get a flat on the way to the lake? Do we have a spare for the trailer? Are the straps pulled tight so the boat is sure not to move?

See, this is how my brain works when doing something we’ve not done before. I REALLY like to know that we’ve planned for every worse case scenario possible AND that we know what to do should a situation arise. Even though in retrospect I know that’s not really possible.

After many deep breaths and asking my bajillion questions to Shane along the way, I’m able to calm myself some. Not completely, but enough to not feel like I’m going to have a panic attack.

One thing I’ve realized in the midst of my freaking out is that I need to share how I’m feeling with someone. This then allows me to tell myself that if something should happen to me, someone knows how I was feeling. Funny how it works to make me safe, but it does. They know that I wasn’t feeling right and so if something should happen they know why.

I also then keep repeating to myself to just be. Be present in the moment and quit worrying about all of the “what ifs”. It’s proven when I enter the “what if” mode,  it sends me into a downward frenzy. Sigh…..

Back to the boat.

Because this boat is bigger and faster than we’ve ever had before, thoughts started creeping back in once we got on the water.

Does Shane really know what he’s doing? He’s never driven a boat like this before. Why does it feel like the nose of the boat is up so high? Is the nose of the boat supposed to be this close to the water?

Are we going to start taking on water? As Cree then looks over the side to make sure this contraption is doing its thing of spitting water out (totally normal, but when you’re having the thought “are we taking on water” and then he yells out “a lot is coming out”) it made my chest tighten.

I try to relax, sit down, and act like everything’s “okay”. We proceed out to the open water and I continue to feel the feels. I’m nervous, almost nauseous. I’m smiling on the outside and scared shitless on the inside.

I try to feel my feet on the ground, take deep breaths and be present. It’s not happening. I’m not feeling any better. A full blown panic attack is on its way. So I had to do the one thing that I know works best for me.

I turned to my father-in-law who was sitting next to me and proceeded to tell him how I was feeling. He listened. It helped. He shared with me how my mother-in-law feels anxious at times and he just doesn’t get it. He never feels that way so it’s hard to relate.

I told him how lucky he was. I expressed to him that just by knowing he was listening and not judging me, made me feel heard and safe. We conversed for a while and it worked. I thanked him.

It’s interesting, how I could have easily talked and supported (and would have loved to!) someone else who was feeling the same way as I was. We would have evaluated the worst case scenarios happening and worked through them. I would have known what to say and the questions to ask to bring them back to present and center.

One question I would have asked is “what does a worse case scenario look like with one of your fears?” The boat might come off the trailer? The boat cop might give you a ticket? The boat might sink? Any and all of those things could possibly happen. And in the end, it might cost you some money, but you will very likely be okay!

There are officers/paramedics to help with an accident or flat tire, there are stores where you can buy the required items to be put on the boat and if you don’t know how to swim hopefully you’re wearing a life jacket while on the water. These thoughts bring a sense of security and safety.

The reality is, I wasn’t able to listen and trust myself enough to believe what I already know to be true. I was so wrapped up in my thoughts that I was making myself go crazy, therefore, causing me to feel incredibly anxious.

By the end of our boating excursion (first of many to come!) I had tubed with Cree, laughed, authentically enjoyed myself, and remembered that Shane would never put us in an intentional situation where we were unsafe.

Writing this out is a great reminder of two of the biggest life lessons I’ve learned over the past year.

1) Ask for help, when the need is there.

2) Trust my discernment.

These lessons have helped me learn and grow both physically and mentally in SO many ways. The best part of it, horses were the ones that reflected this back to me. I’ll explain in greater detail in a later post of the exact instance when the horse taught both of these lessons to me at once. It’s a story in itself and one that I’ll never forget. Definitely magical!

Horses have also helped my friends, family and clients to realize similar life-changing lessons and amazing aha moments. In what could have taken weeks of therapy or counseling, 90 minutes in the round pen helped them get there so much faster.

So yes, I love horses and after seeing how they’ve impacted people’s lives in so many incredible ways, I definitely trust what they bring to helping people to get unstuck and realize their full potential.

Have you’ve experienced something similar?

I’m curious. How did you pulled through it? Let me know in the comments.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

5 Ways to Create a Positive Attitude

5 Ways To Creat a Positive AttitudeWithout a positive attitude, it’s nearly impossible to grow and be able to do all of the things that you enjoy most.

When you’re feeling stuck in a less-than-helpful attitude, it can be hard to figure out what you’re really good at doing and stop you from really going after it.

Seeing how a positive attitude works in my life and with my clients, has shown me that it’s truly worth it to find ways to create a positive attitude. By making a good attitude a habit, you can keep reaching and achieving the big things you want out of life instead of stagnating and feeling stuck with what you have even though you know you could be and do more in this world.

When, just like with horses, 60% to 90% of your communication is nonverbal, the way you hold yourself not only shows others your attitude but yourself, too.

If you find yourself sitting with your shoulders up to your ears, squinting at the computer screen with what some might call a scowl on your face, you’ve just observed that you might not be in the best mindset.

Here are 5 things you can do to help get your attitude headed in a positive direction.

1. Own It – You Can Change Your Mind

Remind yourself that own your attitude which means you can change it. There is always a choice that you make when your respond to something. By this I mean that you get to pick which perspective you want to take on a topic.

It’s easy to forget that there are options. Next time you find yourself reacting in a way that makes you unhappy, pretend you’re that super optimistic friend of yours. What would they say in that situation? How would they respond?

2. Know It’s Temporary

Realize that a bad mood will pass. A bad project will pass. A bad conversation will pass.

Sometimes just knowing that your attitude will improve soon as things change over a short period of time allows you to hang on and keep a sliver of positivity when otherwise you might jump into despair. Much like having a bad head cold, a negative attitude sometimes needs to be waited-out.

If you can remember while you’re in the middle of it that it’ll eventually subside, grab ideas 3, 4 and 5 below to help pull you out of it faster.

3. Smile

Because it’s proven to make you happier. Yep, all of the things you physically do change the chemicals in your body and how you feel about yourself.

So smile, put your hands behind your head and feet up on your desk, or strike a “Wonder Woman” hands-on-hips power-pose to get your can-do attitude on the rise.

Hold that position for 2 minutes and you’ll have released chemicals in your body that get you feeling better about yourself and ready to take on your next thing. Professor Amy Cuddy’s Harvard research proves that these kinds of actions literally change the way you’re perceived by others and the way you feel about yourself.

4. Have 3 “Go-To Things”

What are three things that you’ve observed in the past that help get you to a more positive mood?

Does turning music on (and news off) help? Do you have a comedian that you love to watch? Go find some clips of them and get laughing.

I have a video of my daughter that cracks me up everytime I watch it. If you have a video like that, make sure you know where to find it the next time you need a little lift for a more positive attitude.

If you don’t have a child, here’s a video compilation of someone else’s who is pretty darn funny.

5. Complaint Department is Closed

Tell your family, friends and co-workers that the complaint department is closed for the day. If someone comes to you with a complaint, have a neutral response prepared. What can you think of now to say when this happens that will table the conversation until you feel ready to deal with it?

Maybe you ask them to find one or two ways to resolve whatever the problem is before they do a deep-dive venting session with you. Then tell them that you’ll be happy to talk about the issue after lunch, or tomorrow, whenever it’s more convenient for you to speak about it.

The goal here is to buy you time so you can get in a better frame of mind before you deal with an issue that might really pull you away from a positive attitude and the energy that you need to finish your project at hand.

What’s one thing that you do that helps to get you into a positive mood? Share it in the comments box so I can give it a try.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

 

5 Ways to Structure Your Day to Stay Motivated

5WaysStuctureDayToStayMotivatedDo you feel like you lose steam every day?

Do you notice an unproductive lull that happens in the mornings or afternoon?

Does it drive you nuts when you realize that you’ve just lost another hour to Facebook when you went on there to find something work-related?

It can be SO frustrating when this happens, again and again. How does Facebook suck you in like that? How’d you lose track of your client’s big project?

You used to feel so motivated but it’s waning now and you don’t know why you just can’t push through the dull moments to reach the other *productive* side.

If this sounds a little (or a lot) like you, here five techniques you can use to structure your day to stay motivated:

Stake Out Your Day

First thing in the morning (or even the day before, if you can) decide on the one thing you MUST do and keep that at the forefront of your actions. Put that one thing first, wait, let me capitalize that for emphasis: FIRST.  You may get off track but you come back to that ONE thing (yep, capital letters again). This small dose of planning goes a long way and ensures your ship is sailing in the right direction.

Micro Celebrate

You take turtle steps like the ones I mentioned earlier to stay out of overwhelm. Every time you finish a step, you cross it off your list and then you do a micro celebration. This might look like a power fist bump raised high in the air, like a little happy dance, or like a verbalized “woot!” with a hand clap. You decide!

Any minor acknowledgment to you completing your task will work. You just have to give yourself that little boost of happiness when you finish a task so your brain starts to associate it with motivation.

Micro celebrations can really make a difference and help keep your motivation-mojo going all day long.

Ask for Accountability

You ask someone to check in on your project status. It could be a friend, colleague, family member or even someone far away. You can tell them exactly what to ask you about and on what day so they don’t need to spin their wheels on it at all.

Knowing that someone will help hold you accountable on that follow-up email that needs to be sent or ask if you got your about page updated is a big motivator to actually getting those things done because you don’t want to have to give a negative reply.

Pony-up for Childcare

If you’ve got kids, pony-up and get childcare in place! Do not feel badly about putting your sweet child in camps over the summer or lining up after school activities.

They’ll have a ton of fun and you will actually be able to get your work done without someone asking you to feed them, fix their bumps, take them somewhere or to watch that YouTube video you don’t really like them watching for the millionth time.

For example, if I’m doing an Equus coaching session, it only makes senses that my daughter will want to be there, fully in the mix. She loves the horses! Unfortunately, this would not only be distracting to me but also for my client so I don’t do it. I make sure she’s got another activity planned during my work time.

It’s not worth the stress and while you may feel like you’re saving on childcare, you’re not making room to earn more in your business.

Get Back Up On That Horse

When you get off track, notice it. Say, “Hello Off Track Mind, we’re heading back to the task at hand”. And then come back to that ONE thing that’s your task.

Be kind to yourself when this happens and gently re-direct yourself, knowing that it’s a part of the process. Expect it, see it and have a plan to move back to where you were.

Building habits like these will help you to tap into your motivation mojo and be able to structure your day to keep taking action to get ahead to support your bigger goals.

If you don’t do these things to stay motivated, you may lose focus, mess-up jobs which can lead to lost clients, and feeling pretty awful about yourself (never a good place to be).

Notice when you skip one of these practices.

How does it make you feel? How good is your end work product? Did you lose your mind because your day lost structure? Do you find yourself a bit more edgy or snappy towards the ones you love the most?

Observe how you feel when your day is planned, you know what you need to do, when you’re crossing things off your to-do list. Do you feel like you’re getting ahead and you’re more motivated?

Let me know in the comments what you notice when you get it right or when your day didn’t go as planned. Seeing and noticing what you learn is a huge part of keeping your motivation mojo going strong throughout your day.

Cheers to saddling up and motivating that motivation mojo!

With love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Stuck in Overwhelm? 3 Ways You Can Get Out of It

Stuck in Overwhelm? 3 Ways You Can Get Out of It When do you begin to notice you’re swamped with too much to do and that stress is starting to creep in?? Is it when you’ve nearly bitten the head off of a co-worker or family member (oops!)?

Or when you’re so dog-tired that you’re starting to make careless mistakes because you’ve been staring at the computer screen for what feels like a thousand hours? Around here we like to call that a case of having “mush brain”.

If this is the case, it may be too late to prevent the overwhelm feeling from setting in because you’ve just found yourself in the thick of feeling stressed out with too much on your plate, and too many deadlines to meet.

It can sneak up on you just like that. Fine one minute and then boom!, hello overwhelm-ville.

Last week we talked about taking turtle steps so you can see your progress as a way to get out of feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list.

This week we’re taking it a step further by giving you three totally different ways to cope with the stress of feeling like there’s too much on your plate.

Here are three techniques in different sizes that allow you to get a little separation from the project at hand that’s causing you pain.

SMALL:

You’re stuck at your desk and you’re about to lose it because you just realized that you forgot you needed to do that other part of the project, the one that essentially eats up any float time you might have had.

When this happens, take several deep breaths and feel your feet on the ground. Take note of your five senses. What do you smell? What do you hear? What do you taste? What do you see? What do you feel?

This will allow for you to come back to the present moment, feel grounded + centered and allow for you to think more clearly when deciding that next step.

MEDIUM:

Get up and take a break away from your project. This could be that you go get a glass of water, take a restroom break, go into a conference room and call a friend for a few minutes, surf social media, walk to the mailbox, or get out of the office by going to pick up lunch.

The key here is to physically get away from the project. And to spend a little more time doing something else than in the breathing exercise. This will give you a longer break from the overwhelm zone.

LARGE:

Go exercise. This could be as simple as walking around the block. Or it could be that at some point during the day, you go for a run, bike ride, horseback ride, head to the gym to workout, or take an exercise class.

This will really get you out of your head (and worries) and into your body and, in the present moment. It’s hard to stress out about all the stuff you’ve got to get done, let alone think about anything else but your body’s movements, when your boot camp coach is encouraging you to ride that stationary bike faster or do yet another squat.

The next time you find yourself all of a sudden feeling the pressure to get it all done pronto, pick just one of these techniques and notice how it helps you. The more you do it, the more you can train your mind to accept the break which will make it easier to get back to work, feeling like you can get it all done, no problem.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Feeling Overwhelmed and Under Pressure?

FeelingOverwhelmedUnderPressureDo you ever feel like you’re putting so much pressure on yourself?

With many of the things I want to do in life and in helping my clients, I’ve noticed that I tend to put a lot of  pressure on myself. Only after looking at my calendar and my mile long to-do list (of my own making) do I realize that the pressure I put on myself turns into overwhelm.

The overwhelm then creates procrastination. Why is that? Because I expect too much for myself so I delay doing what I reeeealllly need to do. And, if I’m honest, it means that I’m not always using that precious resource called time in the best manner (you know, the one we can never get more of).

This gets to be tough to keep at bay but over time I’ve developed an approach to manage the overwhelm and not let it stop me from achieving my big goals.

It may surprise you what I recommend doing when that feeling of overwhelm starts creeping in on you.

One time when I was speaking with a colleague, I shared this cycle with her and she helped me to speak the process out loud and observe what I do to keep the stress of that long to-do list in check.

When there are a lot of things that I need to do, or one big thing, and I start to get that sensation of feeling overwhelmed, I know I need to stop and look at the situation.

This is the moment when I accept the reality that I’m asking too much of myself. No, I don’t cut my to-do list in half and call it day. Instead, I look for ways that I can make the to-do items smaller.

This is called  breaking things down into “turtle steps”. It takes me out of overwhelm because I can still get that sense of completion by 100% finishing individual items or steps in a project. And, it allows me to actually make progress toward my bigger goals whether they’re throwing a party for 50 people, developing a new opt-in for my clients or building a new office for my coaching practice. When you start to feel overwhelmed, just think…

Turtle steps. Slow, steady and doable.

Sound like a contradiction?

By using this process it may seem like more is being added to your to-do list but it actually allows you to see a path of what needs to be done instead of a giant goal where seeing the path to completion is foggy, unclear and has a lot of unknown pitfalls.

Still feeling overwhelmed?

Tell me, what is one thing on your to-do list that you haven’t been able to complete? How can you break that one task into three smaller “turtle steps” or tasks instead of one?

Now, go to your calendar and find three open times to add those steps that seems realistic.

How did that feel? If it didn’t feel doable, tweak the steps and the time it in your calendar until it does. You may need to break it down into even smaller steps.

Once you do that, do you feel more open? Are you breathing easier about it?  I’d love to know how this process works for you or if you have a method that works well for handling your overwhelm. Let me know in the comments!

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen