Own Your To Do List Like a Boss

Own Your To Do List Like A BossTime is the only thing we don’t get enough of right? No matter how organized a person is, we’ve all been caught with not having enough time at one point or another. And for those of us who feel like we’re always running out of time, it can be an exhausting, never-ending cycle of panic as deadlines come due.

So, in hopes of helping you gain some sanity by being better with your time, I’m sharing one time management tip that surprised me in how helpful it was.

The Disruptor

At the end of every day, do you feel like you’ve got so much to do that your mind is still racing about all the things you need to do the next day?

Or perhaps, you lay awake in bed with all of those little to-do things running through your mind, keeping you up half the night? If so, this is for you.

The Stressbuster

There’s an easy way to save those worries about ALL the things that need to get done. Seriously!

Near the end of your work day, take ten minutes to list all of the things that you have to do the next day. Include anything from the current day that didn’t get done.

Look at your list. Is there anything that jumps out that needs to be done first thing the next day? Highlight it.

Are there any external deadlines you need to meet? Note those so you can work toward them so you don’t let them slip.

You’re creating your plan of action for the following day which will save you stress and all kinds of  time spent feeling panicked about what you need to do next.

Why it Works

Our brain keeps trying to find a place to organize those thoughts and to-do items because it knows those things are important and that we don’t want to lose track of them. Writing them down allows your brain to hit the pause button so you can go home and rest at the end of a busy day because after writing down all the things you have to do, you have a plan. This is your battle plan for the next day.

When you wake up, you don’t have to worry or stress out about all of the things you need to do because you’ve already figured this out. You just need to show up and work the plan you created the day before.  

Ahhhh, what an empowering feeling, right?

All of a sudden you feel ready for battle instead of feeling like you’re constantly about to be ambushed by your to-do list.

You may feel like a super organized person or someone who can definitely use a little help on this front. In either case, I encourage you to try planning your to-do list the day before and let me know if you find it helpful to feeling more sane and in control of each day and each week.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

You Got to Move It…Move It!

You've Got to Move It...Move It!Do certain seasons put you into motion?

With having fairly long winters here in Ohio, spring is the season that really does this for me! My mind actually goes into overdrive with the playing + planning of all things that can now be done outside. My family and I really enjoy the outdoors so this is a win-win for all of us.

The same is true for my business. I’m currently enrolled in a 3-month coaching program that’s really helping me catapult my business in all the ways I desire. I’m definitely learning a lot and there’s lots of action that has to be taken.

“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

I know it’s worth it. Just like this inspirational quote, taking action = results!

Is there an action you’d like to be taking whether it be personally or professionally and find yourself resisting? If so, why?

Are you ready to make big things happen and take action, but aren’t quite sure where to start? Let’s talk! Click here to see if I can help you discover how to take action so you can get ahead! It’s free and quick so no need to wait. I can’t wait to talk with you!!

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Success: What’s Your Definition?

Success: What’s Your Definition?Do you ever get caught up in the thought that you could be more successful? Like you should be doing more?

You see your friends curating the heck out of their life to make it look always amazing on social media. You hear about co-workers being offered a great new position. You see your neighbor driving a new car.

Ugg! It’s a sure way to make a person feel less than successful that’s for sure.

But, in what ways can you see success in yourself?

What one person sees as success is failure for another, right? Or it very likely could be.

Working a corporate job, 40 hrs/week and dressed in heels might sound great to a lot of people. Just like going for an 8am run, working in your comfy clothes, and calling it quits at 4:30 pm each day (except Friday because that’s your day off) is success to others.

And, of course both of these scenarios can seem like sparkles and unicorns to someone from the outside when in fact they’re nothing like that in reality. Thinking of success in this way makes it way too easy, way too black and white. So I’m asking. Can you dig deeper to decide what success really means to you?

How is your definition of success different from your BFF’s? Your parents? Your significant other’s or sibling’s? Go ahead and ask them what success means or looks like to them. Can you see the subtle differences there?

Maybe it’s your salary or how much you volunteer at your kid’s school that equates with success. What are your personal benchmarks for success?

It can be helpful to think about success in a very fundamental way first. Are your basic needs met? —Food, clothing, shelter, etc?

Then ask what have you done in life that you’re proud of?

I know you may be humble, and this may be hard to remember. And if you’re having a particularly rough day, it might be even harder to remember. If this is the case, go ask your friends or significant other as they may surprise you with what they remember (and were impressed with).

Maybe it was saving to buy a car, paying off your school loans, or graduating from college. Maybe it was that time you decided to take a leap of faith and start your own business.  

This all brings it into focus. Success is subjective. The cool part is that YOU get to decide what it means.What are your personal measures of success? How do you define success for you?

The clearer you get on this definition of success, the easier it is to know when you’ve achieved it.

I’d love to hear what you define as success. Would you please share with me here?

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

 

Are You Nudging Your Success Forward?

Are You Nudging Your Success Forward? How much exercise are you getting?

How much journaling and mindwork are you doing to make your life better?

Are you finding yourself hitting the drive-thru at the fast food place instead of making a healthy lunch?

Why is it that doing these kinds of activities feel like a chore?—Even when you know how much better you’d feel after doing them.

Maybe it’s that you don’t feel like you have enough time for them? Maybe you’re overwhelmed and overworked and can’t see how in the world these good habits can be worked into your schedule?

I totally hear you!!

But…

What if you considered these very important tasks as mandatory?  What if exercise and food prep were as important to your success as writing that perfect email or meeting your client deadline?

How would your week be different if it was structured to focus on a kind of success that counts on you incorporating these things that are missing into your routine?

What if you considered these elements as part of your JOB even though people don’t typically think they should be?

Why should you approach being successful this way?

Because if you don’t value these elements, you won’t do them.

However, if you treat them like a part of your job, you can get them done and move further ahead than you thought.

If you step back and really look at your schedule and your goals, you might just surprise yourself by the wiggle room you can find to incorporate the things you care about and that you truly need worked into your regular routine.

When you shift your perspective, that client call, responding to emails, or reviewing text, it starts to be as equally important as journaling for your mindset, getting in a good workout, and eating healthy.

How?

Ask yourself, what’s one thing that you need to add to your schedule. Maybe it’s an exercise class? Can you do a morning workout at the start of your day or maybe at lunch? Can you set up a treadmill desk? Can you find one single exercise to do every day, even if it’s small like touching your toes?

Maybe you have a cranky boss who you fear might not be into the idea of you coming in a little late or leaving for lunch a little early. Can you convince the boss or your co-worker to exercise at the same time as you? Odds are they need these success elements worked into their routine, too. 😉

I encourage you to get creative and think about ways you can make this idea work.

It is very likely that your mind will try to trick you by telling you that you can’t or don’t need to exercise, eat healthy or whatever your “additional” thing is. This is very common since what you’re wanting to do is not a part of your normal routine. It’s easy to stay comfortable with what we’ve been doing, even though we want more.

If you want more, you have to make changes to get it. The reason your mind starts sending those “no” thoughts your way is only your primal, lizard brain trying to keep you safe. I encourage you to really listen to your body and heart rather than what your head is likely going to tell you.

Your ultimate goal is to focus on what you can do to make exercise or writing or meditating or eating healthy a regular habit.

It can feel nuts to think of it this way but when you start to upgrade your everyday by treating your nice-to-have elements as equals with your have-to-have elements, it automatically makes it easier to work more efficiently, with more clarity and more successfully.

You reach the results you want MUCH faster when you look at your job and life with a holistic approach like this. You’ll find that when you take care of the elements that feel like “nice-to-haves” everything else is better.

If you look at some of the most successful people out there, you’ll find that they attribute much of their success to this approach of treating what they once considered nice-to-haves as must-haves. Wildly successful people like Marie Forleo and Tim Ferriss and have found the wiggle room and see the difference this holistic approach has on their success. You can, too!

I committed to doing more exercise and eating better by hiring a health coach who I adore. This requires me to make time for 30 minutes of exercise each day and to prep my meals each day. We’re talking serious grocery lists and meal proportions.

Even though I’m sore from my new routine, I’m 100% committed. I can see how it’s going to make me and even my family more successful. My energy levels are rising and I know I’ll be able to translate what I learn from working out and planning my meals to my business so I can be more successful.

I challenge you to give it a try. What’s one area where you think you can find a way to wedge in that good-for-you thing? Let me know in the comments.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Always planning for Worse Case Scenario?

Always planning for Worse Case Scenario? A must read! Does life feel like it’s humming along just fine, however, you still feel worried about what’s to come?

Even if life is stable—you’ve got a great job, your kids are doing well, you’re healthy—feeling uncertain about all the things that are most important to you can still happen.

It’s easy to feel like you’re always waiting for the next unforeseen “thing” to occur. This can make you go into total “worse case scenario” mode. Have you been there?

Worse case scenario mode is when you try to plan for every possible outcome, most of which are bad, that race through your mind. This is so you feel prepared for anything that might come your way.

In the process of preparing for what can feel like a battle all the time, the joy of the day or month can easily evaporate. The thoughts racing through your mind take you away from being in the present moment. It can keep you in this worry zone, making you feel like you can’t come up for air.

When you notice this starting to happen, what can you do?

Dig In

Take a look at what you want. Not what someone else wants but what YOU want. As if no one else were a part of your world, what would you want to do, to have, to feel?

  • What makes you glow?
  • Who do you love to spend time with?
  • What makes you happy?
  • What makes you laugh?
  • What makes you feel strong?
  • What makes you feel proud?
  • What makes you feel loved?

Did the answer to those come to you right away or did it send you into a little bit of a panic?

Constant worrying creates a whirl of urgent activity and it leaves little room for considering what matters most to you.

Skip It?

Does it feel easier to keep reading instead of stopping to answer those questions? If it does, I urge you to stop and go back to answer those questions as much as you can right now.

Yep, head back up to that list and jot down the first thing that comes to mind for each. Even if it feels imperfect, keep going. You know what they say, first thought is the best thought. Don’t overthink it. 🙂

Way to Go!

Now that you’ve come up with some answers for those questions, you know more about what YOU want out of life. This is what you emotionally want to feel like and what you physically want out of life. It’s like your life wish list.

Knowing what you (yes specific to just you!) want in life helps to cut your to-do list in half because you will have likely knocked off half of the things, or at the very least, have moved them from the “need” category to the “nice to have” category on your list.

Knowing what you want means that you’ll feel less anxious, panicked and worried about life.

You’ll feel more confident, more capable, and like you are up to the challenge of taking on the world.

What’s something in your answers that surprised you most? What’s one that really excited you? And most importantly, what are a few things you can put in place to get those things?

Here’s to you making that life wish list happen! Everything is possible if you believe in yourself!

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Don’t Give Up Trying

“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.” – Ella Fitzgerald As I continue to transition my focus in business (and in life for that matter!), I find that there are always roadblocks and hurdles to overcome.

At times, I consider throwing in the towel.

I think, who am I to be doing this?

Am I really cut out for this work?

Am I following the right path that I’m meant to be following? Please show me the signs like yesterday!

All of these thoughts are major energy drains when I allow myself to go there. I can easily fall into self doubt and negative self talk.

However, only when I’m really feeling those feels and having those thoughts do I reflect and remember that if I don’t continue to try to achieve my goals, they’re never going to become my reality. I quickly turn those negative thoughts into positive ones.

My greatest work during this time of transition is to remember why I’m doing it and to make sure I’m doing only the work that I love. Can you relate?

So I find this quote to be quite fitting when I start to feel this way.

“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.” – Ella Fitzgerald

Warmly,

Gretchen

Are You Daring to Set Boundaries?

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” Brené BrownCan you can relate to this quote?

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” -Brené Brown

I find as an entrepreneur (and mom, and wife, and friend, and the list could continue on…), I’m such a giver and always want for things to be done just right and for all involved to be happy, that I end up overstepping my own boundaries.

That in turn makes it really easy for me to allow others to do the same since I do it to myself. A little vicious cycle going on there! We must remember how important it is to honor our own boundaries and to love ourselves. We must start with ourselves first to then know what and how to ask it of others.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments. Do you feel like your boundaries honor your needs?

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

How to Show Up Like the Real YOU

How to Show Up Like the Real YOUI’ve been thinking a lot about how I show up for work and my everyday life.

What I wear (who do I have meetings with?), what I feel like (am I rushed or frenzied?) and am I enjoying the process (hey, work can be fun).

I’ve found that if I really think about how I want to show up and act, and set an intention for the day, it shifts my outlook to a much more positive one. I used to come at this from a different angle, though.

When in corporate America, I would think about how my co-worker would see me if I came to work wearing an outfit that wasn’t what the company was used to seeing. Or how my boss would respond if I didn’t’ say something pleasant when asked, “how’s it going”.

I thought I had to wear the work “uniform”.

And I thought that I had to keep a perky, happy, I’ve-got-it-all-together attitude all the time. Both of these things were exhausting constraints to live within.

When I shifted my thinking to make choices about how I wanted to respond to the world versus how I thought the world expected me to respond, things really changed.

I started asking myself questions like:

  • What do I want to wear today that will be comfortable, enjoyable to wear and show my professionalism?
  • How can I communicate in a way that’s authentic, respectful, genuine and doesn’t leave me feeling like I wished I’d said more but didn’t because I didn’t want to rock the boat?

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Being here and showing up every day in a way that feels authentic and right for you is the only way to not feel stuck over the long haul.

I can see how each choice I make translates into deciding how I show up in a supportive way or a way that leaves me feeling like I could have done better. Do you ever notice that about yourself?

Deciding how to show up is done in tiny steps throughout the day.

It culminates in a day well spent doing all of the things you have to do in the best way possible. So you feel good at the end of a day. Those days add up to weeks and months that are more satisfying and give you confidence to do what you need to do.

How are you showing up each day?

  • Did you decide what to wear today based on your needs?
  • Did you decide how to communicate something in a way that was genuine to you?

How about in other areas of your life?

Do you want to eat prepared food or would it be better to make a few meals on the weekend so you can avoid feeling like there’s no time?

Do you want to exercise because it’ll build your confidence in how you look and interact with people? Then go for that walk this morning or head to the gym after work!

Do you want to have a group of friends that you can easily hangout with? How about scheduling a coffee date with an acquaintance to start building your friendship?

Where else can you see opportunities so show up in a way that supports who you want to be?

What’s one decision you made today that you made based on your needs? Please share with me in the comments. I’d love to hear how this works for you!

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Need More? 3 Ways to Get It

Need More? 3 Ways to Get ItHave you found yourself thinking about how you need more, even if you’re not sure what more means?

You know, that little nagging feeling that you don’t have enough? It’s easy to think about it being that you need more money but truly money is only one part of that unsettling feeling of lack.

When you dig into those feelings, a lot of the ‘need for more’ is really a need to be fulfilled and that life has more meaning.

Here are three ways to help you feel rich beyond how much is in your bank account:

Get Excited for Other People’s Abundance!

When you see something good happen to someone else, notice if you feel a little envious of them. If you notice that green-eyed-jealousy monster peeking in, say hello to it then tell it you’re moving on to feeling really happy for that person to be doing well.

Think about why it’s wonderful that this good thing just happened for the other person. It might be that they got a great promotion which means they can spend more time with their family and have a shorter commute.

Or that they just got a new car which means they now can do their long commute in a reliable vehicle with heating and air conditioning that works vs. showing up to work sweaty from summer heat every day.

When you start to flip your reactions about others having great things coming into their lives, it means that you can also start to see and fully appreciate when those same good things happen in your life.

Fill Someone’s Abundance Bucket!

Take it a step further and help fill someone else’s abundance bucket. What does this mean?

It means that you say or do a positive thing for another person. This might be something as simple as smiling or saying hello to a stranger, inviting someone to go somewhere with you, sending a few cheerful words to someone or being a good listener to someone who needs to be heard.

Maybe you can generously and genuinely congratulate someone else on their success.

Bigger ways to fill an abundance bucket are to volunteer for a project or organization, organize a charitable event, or help an older neighbor with chores they may struggle to complete. .

What do you have that you can give to someone else? What encouragement, complement or support can you pass along?

When you find opportunities to do small, kind actions you not only help someone else, you also help fill your own bucket. You get two great results from each act of kindness. I promise you that.

Fill Your Own Bucket!

Create more positive experienced-based things in your life. These are things that don’t require a lot of money and are activities that make you feel good.

An example of this is to visit an old friend for coffee or lunch. If they live too far away, text them a hello and spend a few minutes asking them how they’re doing and what they’ve been up to lately.

If you love to ride horses,  go take one from a nearby stable. If you love reading but haven’t done it in a while, make the time to do it.

Or hey, what about creating your own craft night, book club or scheduling a weekly walk around the park with your friends?

As we move through life it can be easy to lose track of doing the things we really enjoy and that fill our abundance bucket. So we need to make sure we schedule those activities into our lives because we know how happy they make us.

Got an idea in mind? Go add it to your calendar right now even if you don’t have the details worked out yet. You’re more likely to make it happen by scheduling it in. 😉

More

No matter how much money you make, when using any of these three approaches, you’ll invite more abundance and richness into your life. You’ll give more meaning to every day and as a result you’ll feel happier.

You’ll understand what ‘more’ really is.

Take Action

Which one of the approaches from above can you try today? Did it make you feel like you have a little more than you did before trying out one of the above techniques? I’d love to hear how it made you feel.

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Doing What You Love is the Cornerstone

Doing What You Love is the Cornerstone of Having Abundance in Your Life. - Wayne DyerDo you find it true that when you’re doing something you love to do, it brings joy or a sense of freedom into your life? Do you find yourself smiling, happy and wanting more?

By making more time in your life for experiences that allow this emotional state, it allows you to have the abundance in life you desire. I encourage you to try it!Doing What You Love is the Cornerstone

That’s why this quote by Wayne Dyer rings so true for myself and many of the clients I have the pleasure of working with.

“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”

With much love and gratitude,

Gretchen