Reaching Out

As you’ve heard me say before, I tend to put others before me. My kiddos, my husband, friends, family, clients; everyone. It truly matters that all have what they need and if I can be a part of making that happen, then I will and it feels good. I’m a natural humanitarian….and that can be both a good and bad thing.

One thing I’ve really noticed lately is that I need to honor my own feelings and desires as much as I do those of others. There have been some things going on in my personal life and it’s been affecting me in different ways. I’ve found by not dealing with these feelings, I’m letting my emotions of anger and hurt build up inside. Then what happens? I become the snappy wife and mom who ends up taking my emotions out on those who matter most. This feels horrible, after the fact, of course.

To end this, I’ve committed to myself going forward that I’m going surround myself with those I love most, who are a positive inspiration and make me smile. I have to remember that they don’t know I need their support unless I ask and share with them what’s going on.

Bottling my emotions up inside serves no one and brings me down and leaves me feeling raw. I’m tired of feeling this way, so I’m going to stick to my own word and reach out to my soulmates when necessary. I encourage you to take a look inside, and if you are holding on to unhealthy emotions, make a commitment to yourself to reach out to those who care about you. Let them help you help yourself.

It FEELS GOOD just writing this! Thank you as always for listening.

With love and gratitude,

gretchen-sig

Truth

SunflowerHave you ever heard the saying “The truth will set you free”?

I know firsthand that being in difficult situations can be tough; especially when there’s confrontation involved. But the number one thing I’ve learned, and a very important life lesson is that no matter the circumstance, stating the facts or the truth will always set you free.

At times, you don’t want to hurt others’ feelings and are willing to compromise yours; or maybe it’s true that you’ve hurt someone and the truth needs to be told. The bottom line is that once what needs to be said is said, a huge sigh of relief will come over you and you’ll know you did the right thing.

Don’t be afraid to speak the truth, regardless of fear. The truth will ALWAYS set you free.

With love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Saying Yes When You Really Should Have Said No

Have you ever been guilty of this? I know I have, and I just had an experience that really reminded me to seriously think about my answer before I jump the gun and dive in with a Yes.

A great friend and colleague of mine approached me with a new business venture. I was stoked! We met up several times (she’s local; YAY!), mapped things out, started focusing deeper and deeper. Then, I realized that while I was stoked about this, I was more stoked for her and this awesome idea she had. It was her heart’s passion work, not mine.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that with the work I’m currently doing for my business and for my clients (that I love doing), I didn’t have the extra time to give to a new venture. But I wanted to help! I knew I could help! I wanted to make her vision become a reality! But the true reality was, this wasn’t for me to do. I should have thought this through and said no from the beginning.

So the next conversation was hard. I procrastinated, but in the end, it was fine. We’re still the greatest of friends and she completely understands. It’s life and sometimes we make mistakes, and that’s okay.

Looking back at the situation now, I know I should have said no for many reasons, but I chose not to follow my heart or listen to my intuition. I wanted to be the natural nurturer that I am.

Another great reminder and lesson learned.

With love and gratitude,
Gretchen