Self Care + Self Love = Better Wife, Momma, and Entrepreneur

I’m the first person to admit that I lack in the areas of self care + love. I always make sure my family, clients and animals have all that they need and are well supported, but I tend to put myself on the back burner. It’s not intentional; it’s just natural for me to put others first and it feels good to do for them.

After just returning from an amazing vacation with only my husband (it took him to encourage me to book this time away for us), I’m easily reminded how important it is to take care of me. I returned from this trip feeling rested, relaxed and rejuvenated.

Being able to unplug from my home duties as a wife + mom and unplug from my client work was much needed. Sitting by the ocean hearing the waves crash, listening to live music at our resort, seeing wild dolphins, parasailing with my love; all these amazing things happened because I made the commitment to love myself and do things I enjoy. This vacation will never be forgotten.

As I type this I hope not to be coming across as selfish. You see, this trip was very hard for me to commit to (my husband and I have not gone away by ourselves since our son was an infant, and now he’s a lot older!) We’ve now made a commitment together to make an annual trip to a destination we both love and can completely enjoy and unplug.

I’m very grateful for family, friends and clients who helped make this trip all that it was. Thank YOU!

I challenge you to answer the question, what can you plan to show yourself a little self-care in the near future?

With love and gratitude,

Gretchen

Vacation Means Vacation—How to Enjoy Yours with Ease

vacationAre you one of those busy entrepreneurs who just can’t seem to find a good time to take a vacation? Or when you do, you take all of your tech devices with you and spend most of your time doing the same thing you do at home…working? News flash…that’s not really a vacation; it’s simply a temporary change in your work environment!

Now I’m not saying that’s totally a bad thing; after all, working under an umbrella, while both feet are dug into a white sandy beach ain’t all bad! But the whole idea of a vacation is to unplug. Disconnect with work and reconnect with family, friends and yourself. Vacations help you re-charge, re-energize, re-vitalize and re-group. And as entrepreneurs and sole business owners, we really need that, don’t we?

I just returned from an awesome vacation where I was able to really shut down, shift my brain from work to life, and completely commit to my vacation time. I enjoyed beautiful beaches, incredible sunsets and the simple, lazy days that vacations offer us. As a result, I’m back, rested and totally jazzed about my business and my awesome clients!

How was I able to do it? I’m excited to share my little secrets with you in hopes that you, too, can take the kind of vacation that brings joy and energy back into your world!

Planning. This is the key to everything, really. Thorough planning will help ensure that all aspects of your business are handled in your absence. Give your clients plenty of notice of your time away, and go to them with a plan for how they will be cared for during your absence. Set up a calendar, checklists and to-do lists to help you cover every task, and every situation that might come up. Of course, you can’t plan for everything, but prepare as completely as possible. This might mean pre-scheduling social media posts and newsletters; adjusting calendar schedules, preparing out-of-office messages on your emails, and even getting payroll or other accounting activities done ahead of time. The more you handle in advance, the more you can relax during your lazy vacation days.

Teamwork. I just can’t say enough about teamwork. Having a competent team of support professionals is frankly, the best way to give yourself the gift of down time with absolute confidence. Oftentimes, depending on your business, having even one support person to handle things in your absence can be all you need to ensure that your business continues to run smoothly. It’s an investment with a huge ROI in terms of your time, your health and your mental well-being.

Boundaries. If there is simply no other way around working during your vacation, then establish a few boundaries for yourself. Decide ahead of time when and how much time you will spend working each day. Establish set times for work; set limits, and then stick to them. Outside those designated times, leave your computer turned off and your cell phone on the nightstand (or at least in your beach bag or backpack).

Vacation means vacation. You owe it to yourself, your family, your business and your clients to be the best you can be, which means taking care of yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally. Vacations help you do just that. It really is therapeutic, aside from being just plain fun! Work means work. Vacation means vacation. Try not to mix the two!

Saying Yes When You Really Should Have Said No

Have you ever been guilty of this? I know I have, and I just had an experience that really reminded me to seriously think about my answer before I jump the gun and dive in with a Yes.

A great friend and colleague of mine approached me with a new business venture. I was stoked! We met up several times (she’s local; YAY!), mapped things out, started focusing deeper and deeper. Then, I realized that while I was stoked about this, I was more stoked for her and this awesome idea she had. It was her heart’s passion work, not mine.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that with the work I’m currently doing for my business and for my clients (that I love doing), I didn’t have the extra time to give to a new venture. But I wanted to help! I knew I could help! I wanted to make her vision become a reality! But the true reality was, this wasn’t for me to do. I should have thought this through and said no from the beginning.

So the next conversation was hard. I procrastinated, but in the end, it was fine. We’re still the greatest of friends and she completely understands. It’s life and sometimes we make mistakes, and that’s okay.

Looking back at the situation now, I know I should have said no for many reasons, but I chose not to follow my heart or listen to my intuition. I wanted to be the natural nurturer that I am.

Another great reminder and lesson learned.

With love and gratitude,
Gretchen

Working with the Right Clients—Its Not Just About Your Target Market

Have you ever started a new client partnership that seemed like it was going to be a rewarding, long-term relationship, only to realize later that things weren’t working out quite the way you had envisioned? They’re in the right target market and the right niche for you, and their needs match your skills to a tee. So what happened?

One of the primary factors in finding the right clients is of course, connecting with people in your particular niche. Making sure that your skills and services can provide them with the support they need is first and foremost. But, there’s a second factor to consider that is equally as important, and that’s the human factor.

So, what should you consider when looking at the human factor?

  • Personality –Is this a person that you hit it off with right away, or have your interactions been awkward and uncomfortable from the beginning?
  • Work ethic – Do they have similar philosophies as you about honesty, integrity, commitment and responsibility?
  • Work style – Does their work style fit with yours, in terms of communications, availability, project timelines, and expectations?

Your expertise will take care of the work side of things, but if you don’t have that human factor in there, the relationship may not prove to be what you both anticipate in the beginning. And that can make for a stressful and unfulfilling work environment.

When I’m working on a new client prospect, I ask them to complete a pre-client assessment. My assessment form includes questions that help me decide if they are a good fit for my business model. Nothing too personal, of course, and I always give them the option of not completing the form (which in itself gives me a good indication that they might not be the right match for me). And finally, I rely on my intuition; that “gut feeling” that we’re all blessed with.

Try using an assessment form for your next prospect, and then, do as I do…and go with your gut!