Have you ever had something big about to happen but planning for it and making sure it was done to your expectations was sucking the life out of you? Even though it was something you reeeeeallly wanted to do, and had been in the making for years?
Recently it felt like my worries were everywhere. Seemingly a million things to do to get ready to coach clients in-person with my horses. It didn’t seem like there was enough time or resources to do it all the way I envisioned. Every solution I came up with fell short of my *ideal* way for my clients to have an amazing experience.
Is my barn perfect for coaching? Is my office-to-be too much of a wreck because it’s still under construction? Is the horse pen perfect? Will my horses behave properly with this coaching process? Is it too cold to do this kind of coaching in the winter months??
I was essentially only seeing one way that my coaching sessions could go.
The pressure I was putting on myself left me feeling stressed out and like I had mush brain by the end of the day. It started to make me feel like the log-jam related to my Equus Coaching was causing log-jams in other areas of my life, too.
Then the quote “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” by famous tennis player, Arthur Ashe got me thinking (I had posted it on my Facebook page a while back). I have a barn, a horse pen and horses of my very own. While they may not always be “perfect” in my coaching fantasy world, they are still great, and they’re the core components needed for my Equus Coaching.
Coming back to that quote made me realize that I hold high expectations for myself and I’m very attached to the outcome. Seeing this is a huge awareness for me and it’s a practice to let go of some of that and be in the moment so I’m not so attached to the outcome of the smaller things. I realized I could focus on the bigger things, like the things I do have in place to make my Equus Coaching possible and my clients having an amazing coaching experience.
I could see that I needed to start my Equus coaching following the ideas from that quote. -Starting where I am. Using what I have. And by doing what I can. I could throw out the other ideas of renting a potentially costly facility and horses at a stable for hire, or worrying about the weather. I found ways to work around my fears so that I could show up and give each client the best possible coaching experience with my horses that I can. Even if things weren’t as I had first envisioned them, it was going to be okay.
This is a sign of growth for me, and possibly for you, too. Every time a person starts to feel stuck or overwhelmed by something new or big in their life, it’s a sign of learning and that you’re probably doing exactly what you need to do to grow your business or your personal life.
It can be painful, it can feel like an elephant is sitting on you, but know that when big changes are afoot, it brings up big mind-set issues, too. Know that it’s part of the growth process and that with awareness and observing you can get past the log-jam, whatever it might be. Know that the work on learning and mindsets never stops so you have to be able to see it and develop strategies to get past it.
Is there an area in your life where you’re trying something new or considering doing something big? Do you find yourself procrastinating on taking action when this happens? How do you get yourself unstuck? Do you recognize any patterns in what happens for you? If so, let me know in the comments.
With much gratitude,
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